We can start with—some STIs can kill you.

They’re both huge violations of trust of course. When it comes to lying about paternity, until pretty recently, women couldn’t have mortgages, buy cars, or get credit cards without a husband to cosign. So anything lies told in past generations, I give a lot of leeway. I’m sure there are plenty of similar modern circumstances where the lie is for survival.

Other cases where it’s someone being shitty—yeah, it’s super shitty. I’d imagine in many cases, there are reasons. I can think of no reasons for a dude intentionally removing a condom without telling his partner, other than his own pleasure. And that’s grotesque.